Divorce and Remarriage

Divorce is a touchy subject especially in the LDS community. So many couples are worried that they will not find the right person, and they will do anything to avoid divorce. Divorce can be avoided if couples decide to communicate and serve each other instead of trying to always be right, or trying to live separate lives while being married, Communication is key, but so is effective problem solving.

However, I think people should not be of divorce. Divorce is not a good thing, and I am not advocating it, but I think divorce sometimes can be the best option for a couple. The most important thing is to make sure your children are happy, but also both parents should be happy as well. Couples should not just stay together for the status or for their children. Children need to be in happy environments that uplift them, and parents can even learn how to work together and parent and give a good life to their children even if they are divorced.

Parenting

When a couple starts to have children, they need to start thinking of how they are going to parent their children. Husbands and wives usually come from different backgrounds and were raised very differently, so the couple needs to discuss the differences that they had, what worked well from their up-bringing, and what did not work well.

Couples often like to compare how they were raised and like to think they way they want to parent is the correct way. However, this does not work because if both spouses do not agree on how to raise their kids then there will be a lot of contention due to these differences. A couple can hope to help their child succeed if they do not agree in how to discipline, reward, and punish their children. Everything in parenting needs to be in sync, so one parent is not looked as the fun parent and one is looked as the mean one. Parenting is essential to the well-being of the child, but both parents need to work together. 

Importance of Fathers

Fathers are an important part of many of our lives. Fathers are the ones who teach us how to play ball, gain confidence, do well in school, and how to be self sufficient. Mothers primary roles are to nurture and support their kids, where fathers roles are to provide and protect their kids during their lives. My life would be totally different if I did not have a father who taught me how to become a man, and how to make good decisions that will benefit me in my life.

Research shows that children tend to have a better quality of life when their father is involved in their lives. There is less misuse of substances, less physical and verbal abuse, and there is less teen pregnancies when teens have an active relationship with their father. Kids who have good relationships with their fathers tend to receive better grades, become more involved in school and the community, and set more long term goals that they will most likely accomplish.

Kids who do not have a good relationship tend to struggle more with depression, anxiety, and self image. Fathers are important to kids learning how to become responsible adults, but also how to feel good about themselves a teach them important life lessons.

Communication is Key

Everyone has heard that in order for a relationship to be successful, the couple or family needs to communicate. If we do not communicate, then we can not hope to understand what each other's feelings are. One thing that I learned in class is that woman and men communicate very differently.

Men like verbal communication where woman say exactly what they mean. Women, however, like to guess and try and read body language and other ques. The key to communications is to understand body language and verbal ques, as well as telling your spouse or children what is wrong. You have to find a balance as well as understanding how the other person communicates their feelings.