Thursday, March 3, 2016

Individuality in Marriage


“Our Father knew exactly what He was doing when He created us. He made us enough alike to love each other but enough different that we would need to unite our strengths and stewardship's to create a whole. Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other. Thus, no marriage … is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives … work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other’s strengths.” -Sheri Dew

Oakland California Mormon Temple

Many times people think that when they are in love and eventually get married that all their problems will be gone. But why would this be the case? We have problems as individuals, and we are still individuals even in marriage. As Sheri Dew states, we are capable of loving and growing together with our spouses because that is how our Father in Heaven created us to be, but we are not perfect as individuals, so we can not expect to be perfect in marriage. 

It is critical that when we get married we really know the individual. People are usually really similar and are capable of loving different types of people, but people have so many differences that they try to look past them in the excitement of having a relationship? But why does this hinder our future happiness in marriage? If we do not take the time get to know a person fully, including their habits, temperament, work ethic, and essentially what makes them tick. If we only stay surface level before getting married the relationship will be harder in the long run because we did not really "know" who we were getting married to. Marriage is so important, therefore it is essential that we find someone who we trust and accept, so they can know everything about us, and we can know everything about them, in order to make a long lasting, happy marriage.